Travelling With Older Parents: All You Need To Know For A Smooth Holiday

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When I decided to take a Summer holiday with my 78-year-old mum, it felt like diving into a pool of nostalgia and anticipation. As a woman in my 50s, balancing work, family, and the occasional midlife crisis, I craved a break. But this trip wasn’t just about me; it was a chance to bond with Mum and create new memories while she was still vibrant and adventurous. The experience was a mix of joy, discovery, and occasional challenges, but one I wouldn’t trade for the world.

The Decision to Travel Together

Mum had always been a spirited traveller, but in recent years, her journeys had been limited to nearby destinations. We’d often reminisce about past family vacations, her eyes lighting up at tales of Parisian cafes and their romantic passageways or the bustling markets in Istanbul.

It was during one such conversation that I suggested we take a trip together, just the two of us. Her face lit up with a mixture of surprise and excitement, and that was all the encouragement I needed.

Choosing the right Destination

I can’t deny selecting the destination was both fun and challenging. We wanted somewhere that offered a blend of relaxation and cultural immersion.

At first, we thought a cruise would have been the perfect compromise, but then after much deliberation, we settled on Italy – a perfect mix of scenic landscapes, rich history, and, of course, wonderful food. It was a country Mum had always wanted to revisit, and the beautiful city of Venice with its wonderful surroundings, arts and architecture, and its relatively relaxed pace seemed ideal for her.

Whatever destination you choose, I recommend planning ahead, and ensuring all logistics are well thought out, from accommodations (better renting a house or booking a b&b?) to transport. Keep an itinerary that balances activity with rest and remember to pack all necessary medications, a basic first aid kit, and comfortable clothing. Don’t forget items that ensure comfort, like a good pair of walking shoes or a favourite pillow.

The Pros of Travelling with an Older Parent

One of the greatest benefits was the quality time we spent together. In our everyday lives, it’s easy to get caught up in routines and obligations. Travelling gave us uninterrupted time to talk, laugh, and share stories. I learned more about Mum’s youthful escapades and her dreams, and she, in turn, got to see me in a different light, away from my roles as a professional and mother.

We took leisurely strolls through Italian piazzas, sat for hours at cafes watching the world go by, and enjoyed every meal without rushing. Her slower pace allowed me to appreciate the journey in a way I hadn’t in years.

Also, Mum’s perspective added richness to the trip. Her knowledge of history and art made museum visits more engaging, and her life experience offered invaluable insights. I saw the world through her eyes, which were often more patient and forgiving than my own.

One of the most memorable experiences was a gondola ride in Venice. As we glided through the canals, Mum recounted her first visit to the city with Dad, painting vivid pictures of their young love. It was a poignant moment, filled with both joy and a touch of melancholy. We laughed, reminisced, and even shed a tear or two, but it was a beautiful reminder of the enduring bond between us.

The Cons of Travelling with an Older Parent

There were times when Mum’s physical limitations and personal interests posed some challenges. What appealed to her didn’t appeal to me. Mum preferred art galleries and historical sites, whereas I wanted to explore local markets and try fine-dining restaurants. Also, navigating cobblestone streets or climbing stairs in ancient surroundings required frequent breaks and a steadying hand.

Compromise and patience were essential in balancing our activities to ensure we both enjoyed the trip. When travelling with older parents, what I can recommend is to plan your days with enough downtime to ensure they are not overwhelmed or exhausted. You may need to make some adjustments to fit in afternoon naps and rest periods. So, don’t try to plan too many activities in one day so as not to exhaust your senior parents when travelling. Limit walking and expect to take it easy. 

Don’t forget that travelling with the elderly means being vigilant about health, too. I had to ensure we had all her medications, find nearby healthcare facilities, and be prepared for any medical emergencies. This added a layer of responsibility that could be stressful at times.

As our parents age, you have to take into account that they might have a harder time getting around, and other health issues can obviously arise. For example, I had to remember that my mum couldn’t be active early in the morning (a time when I am usually full of energy). She needed at least 30 minutes to adjust her insulin pump, and due to her diabetes, we had to adhere to a strict meal schedule, but whenever I found myself becoming impatient, I reminded myself that she had cared for me for 18 years — even through my challenging toddler years.

Final Thoughts

Travelling with Mum was an enriching experience that brought us closer and created lasting memories. For any midlife woman considering a journey with their ageing parents, I wholeheartedly encourage it. With some extra planning and preparation, everyone can have a wonderful and successful holiday.

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